Hello beautiful Souls. Today my message is about "water off a ducks back"
I was in a clothing retail store today.
I was wearing a pair of white three quarter "Jeggings". For content, please allow, explanation (white stretchy, skinny jeans/ trousers.) These Jeggings have also got an elastic waist band.. (to give you a better visual.)
So why am I telling you all this? Yes... Always a message in my stories, sure. I approach a shop assistant, a slim 20 something, young woman. I ask her if there are any of these Jeggings available. She says only in size 12 denim, black and blue. She then asked what size I am looking for. I tell her my size. She tells me they don't have any in white in my size. I reply that's a pity because I looked at another branch and they also only go to size 12. She replies. "Oh madaam, (she's French), you must just lose weight!!
I wasn't quite sure at first how to respond. (riiiight... Avra being unable to speak is, rare!) I took a deep breath and said. OK, I will see if my feet will shrink too, whilst I try fit into a pair of shoes 2 sizes too small. I smiled and said goodbye "au revoir " have a good day …”Bonne Journee!”
A few years ago I would have been utterly mortified to be spoken to in such an insensitive and quite honestly, rude reply. Today I just straighten my crown and let the water run off like on a ducks back.
I did, re-focus on looking at the dresses, especially the ones with no waist bands...(ok kaftan like. Hehe 🤣)
The point here is be careful with your language and your words. You have no idea what someone is going through. Size 10 or size 20 it doesn't matter. Always show kindness and be sensitive to others. Medical conditions such as Thyroid and sugar diabetes can cause weight gain so stop with the body shaming! Just as mental illness can cause both weight gain and loss. There is absolutely no tolerance and making someone feel their weight has any bearing on their beautiful Soul.
I feel so much better having not been angry or over reactive and genuinely don't care a fig. It’s like water off a ducks back and my crown is perfectly straight! My body is beautifully imperfect, lumps, bumps and all. It's time to love yourself and that means your body too. I embrace my wrinkles as part of my wisdom, humour and laughter timeline and my full figure with curves as testament of my shape and child birth!
You go look at the clothes on sale, it is mostly goods not sold . What is the average size on sale? Small!!! Wonder why? Hmmm… for fuller figure ladies. I say wear your curves with style and be proud! Ps. I am a size 14 and proud of it! I decided to take care of my body eat well and healthily and yet find a space of acceptance! Also have a few cheat meals! Why? Because I am perfectly imperfect!
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