Hello beautiful Souls. My message today is about permission to be treated well.
Giving ourselves or other's permission how to treat us is based on what we allow! We have to set a clear messages and make sure that what we need and want, is in a such a way in which we chose to be treated.
It has to be absolutely clear. When people treat you badly it is often about the lack of boundaries and understanding or, you are not being able to be strong enough to say NO!
A good exercise to do to achieve fair treatment is to list three things in your life that you are simply tolerating or putting up with. What in your life right now is it that is making you annoyed, unhappy or angry? (Even if this is a family member).
Highlight these three areas and examine whether there is something that you are willing to change. Then, decide if you are accepting the result of this situation or dynamic...or, are you really just keeping quiet. (passive aggressive).
If your answer is that you just sweep it under the rug, tolerating it, then, consider whether you are feeling that you are deciding on picking your battles.
Maybe you are just being a people pleaser and are secretly resentful. If this is the case, then you definitely need a broom and a bigger dust pan.
Take ownership of how you are wanting to be treated and commit to be respected. Is the situation a tempory issue or is it something you need to take immediate action on. Sometimes we may need to be patient and allow the journey of good timing to resolve the situation. In understanding that it's tempory, we can adjust to the fact that it too shall pass.
This scenario applies to our own tolerance too, by allowing other's to use us or even abuse your kindness is about us, allowing ourselves to be disrespectful to oursef!
It may be time to stop excepting yourself as second best. You, are always first! You are not selfish, you always need to look out for YOU!
The way we tolerate what we want or utilize boundaries to indicate our needs to others is the way they learn how to behave towards us.
The very people who are upset by your boundaries are the very one's who require better guidelines of what you are prepared to tolerate. Sometimes you have to make decisions that hurt your heart but calm down your Soul! Tough love is essential.
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